Say no to the child pr011.msi

Say no to the child – the mother and daughter of the Sohu said, "no" and said "yes" as important, and can be love. Saying "no" with guilt is not as necessary as saying "yes" with a sense of sacrifice. When we can not, do not fit, or do not want to meet the child, we should as soon as possible, clear and simple to tell the child. I just used these words as early as possible, clear and brief. When you are sure, the sooner you say "no" the better, the more explicit and the better. If you explain a lot, it is not to say you can not explain, but if you explain a lot, it is often your inner guilt, want to get the child recognized and accepted, this time, children are often tangled with you. Your heart is determined, the child is not entangled with you; your heart more hesitant, more want recognition and acceptance, and your children more tempted, or complain about you. Don’t worry about being rejected or hurt, don’t worry about it. First of all, you believe that you do not know that you are doing your best, you love the child as much as possible, this is enough. You are a person, you can do as much as you can do, can not do, do not need to feel guilty. You don’t need to worry about children, children are usually more powerful than their parents. Worry is a kind of fear, that is, if I were a child, I would be hurt, how would I be. Fear is the basic idea. In fact, this is the fear of their parents, as parents of you to the projection of the words, in fact, is a big constraint on the child. He can not do, but when you worry, you found him like this, you can expect him to do, this sends a binding energy, children will be very uncomfortable, worry about never love, care and worry is not the same, also need not entangled in a. Can not meet the child does not need guilt. Children can not meet us, or can not meet our expectations, we do not blame. A good relationship is a two-way freedom, a good relationship is not an obligation, obligation is not a good relationship. Also, don’t say "no" to your child". Deliberately and unwilling. Do not want to be able to, I do not want to say, say it directly. "Now I don’t want to do that, if I want to do what I can, but I am in a bad mood, I don’t want to. Or for any reason not to." Not willing to be, when you say "no", this is a very human phenomenon, this is nothing, this is acceptable. But you don’t mean it. Intentional is the color of punishment, there is the color of revenge. Do not want to be a natural, do not want to be without emotion. For example, "I don’t want to sleep in a room with you. I don’t hate you, but I don’t want to sleep with you". This is a neutral. However, the intention is, "I am not happy, I will not let you into my room today." For example, between husband and wife, I am not happy, I do not want to let you into my room. It is the color of punishment, it has to get a little means to do a little political meaning. General "intentional" is a reason.相关的主题文章: